When God said forgive seventy times seven… Was adultery included?
Does forgiveness mean allow him to come home?
Note: keep in mind this ain’t something later found out about, this gentleman really pulled an all nighter with the other female!!!
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…pressed enter too quickly…I wish I knew of something better to say. God bless.
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Thanx luv, same to you
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I have asked myself this question a million times…I wasn’t cheated on, but the guy was very manipulative and abusive in a lot of ways I didn’t see at the time. We never do. However, the impression I’ve gotten when I’ve asked this question is that forgiveness means that you no longer hold a grudge against that person, that the slate on that is clean…that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re going to reconcile and be the way you were before so much as that you’re not going to carry that around with you anymore. Easier said than done, I know.
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Thanx so much, and I’ve forgiven, as we are cordial… But, there’s no more face to face interactions… And per our conversation yesterday, he now realizes it’s serious and he messed up!!! I hate it for him, but it had to be done for my sanity and reassurance
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There is no sin that is worse than another in the sight of God. All sin is equal. The earthly repercussions, however, might be drastically different. Definitely pray for Gods guidance!
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Thanx, I will
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You can forgive without allowing yourself to be continued to be hurt. Forgiveness is not contingent on you remaining in the relationship. You can forgive him and leave him or you can forgive him and stay, only you know the answer to that question of choice. I’m sorry that you have to make that choice and I am sorry for the hurt that you must be feeling.
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Thank you so much… I’m getting better
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That is wonderful to hear 🙂 I will pray for you.
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🙂
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So sorry this has happened to you. I’d say forgive yes (or it’ll drag you down). I know guys can screw up once in a while, get drunk and get led on etc. and in such cases it can sometimes be worked out (not overlooked – you’re not a door mat!) if they are truly sorry, but this guy seems to have no respect for you at all to pull such a stunt (not to mention love!) a “slip” doesn’t last all night! It’s not about the adultery its about love and respect. I’d say you’re better off without him unless he truly repents and comes back on hands and knees begging and even then only after he’s proved it for a while and if you feel led.
Love is not weak its strong, so I’d say forgive but take action, maybe he’ll learn from this mistake.
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Thanx bunches… Well put!!!
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You deserve better! Xo
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Thanx 🙂
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My only advice for you is to really pray for God to reveal His plans for you. You will know if it’s God’s will in your life if a certain decision gives you peace because Jesus is the Prince of Peace. If a certain decision doesn’t give you peace and the Holy Spirit convicts you because of it, then potentially it is not what God wants for you. Seek Him and most likely, you’l find the answer. My only prayer is that you would be strong enough to accept the truth that He will reveal to you. God bless!
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Thanx, and God Bless you as well
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I wanted to say that you need to forgive your husband but it’s not necessary for you to reconcile with him. However, I feel that the Holy Spirit wants me to direct you to the story of Hosea. God commanded Hosea to marry a prostitute and he obeyed. Later on, his wife left him and found another man. Hosea was in distress but God commanded him to find his wife and to take her back home. So, Hosea did what the Lord have told him to do. When he found his wife, Gomer, she was in chains and was being auctioned to the public. Hosea bought Gomer back and took her as his wife again. Imagine how painful that was for Hosea? His wife cheated on him but still he bought her and paid the price for what was already his. God revealed how much He loves us through Hosea’s story. We have turned away from God and worshipped other gods (idols, money, etc.) just like Gomer. However, He still forgave us and redeemed us by sending His Son to die on the cross and pay for our sins. I believe that the love between married couples should always mirror the love God has for His church. I hope that this Bible story gives you hope that as you faithfully wait for your husband to come back, God will refresh you and will give you peace that transcends all understanding. You already have a God who loves you so much. Everything else is just a bonus. 😉
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I wanna let him come home so bad, but he’s done this so many other times with no repercussions, and now I think he has lost respect for me altogether, and will continue to hurt me, because I keep falling for his mess!!! I’m so confused
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He needs to know I know my worth, and won’t stand for just anything anymore… This has been going on since 1998, and if you don’t stop a person from walking all over you, why should they quit
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My only fear is something bad will happen to him while he’s out there and his blood will be on my hands SMH. I don’t want that, but what about my repetitive pain… It’s like he keeps getting away with murder ggggrrrrrrhhhhhh
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I say forgive yourself for being angry, and go to that locksmith! Forgiveness may come with time. Right now, take care of yourself. My experience is that cheaters will always cheat. You deserve better. My feeling is that God wants you to have better – that’s why you found out.
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Hallelujah!!! More confirmation, and I’m getting more strength each time… Thanx so much
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Forgiveness is essential, but reconciliation is not. Ive walked through the pain of adultery. I forgave the other woman (my former friend), and it set me free from a prison of anger and bitterness. However, she is still my FORMER friend. I offered forgiveness and reconciliation to my (now ex-) husband. He chose to continue his cheating, and I eventually divorced him. It was a long, difficult decision that was made in prayer and in consultation with godly advisors. It is a daily decision to forgive him, but absolutely necessary. Reconciliation will not happen. Ultimately, you have to get close to the Savior and let him lead. You must only be obedient.
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Thank you for that, I have to forget about my wanting him home just to cure my loneliness, and realize I deserve better
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Yes, you deserve to be treated like a princess! Whatever happens, theres a beautiful future for you! Hang in there!
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I will, and I appreciate you’re transparency and encouragement
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I looked up your posts to thank you for following my blog. Then couldn’t believe the topic you posted last. Been there, done that. Yes, it’s possible to forgive. Yes, I changed the locks. In my case, we’re back together and still rebuilding after seven years. Hard, hard work.
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OMG, i need you… Back together, Plllleeeeeaaaaassssseeee elaborate
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You gotta help me… You’re Heaven sent
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and PS, thanks for following my new blog. You are number two. I started yesterday.
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You’re more than welcome… It’s my pleasure
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I’m a 70 year old white Aussie and I’d say, that God’s grace would suggest you forgive him but get down to a locksmith and have all the locks changed. He,s made his choice. He’s gone and you make sure.
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Thanx so much, and that’s exactly the confirmation I needed
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I believe God does allow this although he also allows the grace for you to forgive him. Do you guys have a regular pastor?
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No, that’s the problem… I work Sundays and he’s Muslim
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This is just a general response I found online. It might be helpful. Just remember that your friends are not living your life for you; your family, etc. Only you can decide what is right for you – and if you do it prayerfully you will be all right. It might be good if you could seek out a pastor you can meet with during the week. Feel free to write me if you want to. I only suspect that my ex was unfaithful so I don’t have that experience; maybe that is good.
http://bible-christian.org/discussion/response45.html
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Thanx for everything you wrote, I wish I could find a Pastor to dedicate some time to me… I need it
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My opinion, no. I say you can forgive him and not let it drag you down, but I wouldn’t let my husband back in. If you are going through this, it’s really up to you, but you have to put it in the past and not bring up or worry about it anymore.
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Thanx Mama… I love your response, feels like a sisterly reply… Means so much to me 🙂
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Ok good! 🙂 I didnt want it to sound mean. Haha.
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No indeed, I’ve been stifled and needed straight unbiased answers
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